HELPED, HUGGED OR HEARD

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I JUST WANT TO HELP

Who doesn’t. But I want to be heard and hugged right now, so….

You thought I had a hard time holding back before? Well, buckle up, because I’m about to tell it like it is, and there’s no stopping me now. I’m not saying I have an excuse—nope, let’s call it permission. I’ve been through enough, I’ve seen enough, and I’ve felt enough that I’m officially allowed to speak my mind.

And here’s the thing. I know you all are itching to give me advice—bless your hearts. But guess what? This time, I’ve got the advice. And trust me, you’re going to want to take notes.

This is my space. My truth. My time to get real, raw, and maybe even a little ridiculous. So, here goes nothing—or maybe, here goes everything. As I step into this next chapter of my journey, I’m realizing what I truly need—and what I don’t. Right now, I don’t want advice, suggestions, or recommendations on what I should do or think. I’ve already been through so much, and what I need most is simplicity, connection, and lightness.

I want to feel heard, to share moments of understanding, or to laugh when the weight of it all feels too heavy. That’s what lifts me up. That’s what helps me move forward.

I know people mean well and want to help, but this is my path to walk, and I need to honor what feels right for me.

So today, I’m giving myself permission to ask for what I need: no advice, just love, a hug, or maybe even a good laugh.

I feel as though this just be my motto for this entire journey.

But Wait—Turns Out I Do Need Something (and It’s Not What You Think)

I’m actually on the verge of a full blown melt down right now. Not the cancer thing—nope. It’s this damn blog. I’m about to throw a fit because I just want it to look readable and presentable, and it’s driving me insane. If anyone knows how to fix this mess, speak up before I completely lose it!

P.S. Consider this a loyalty test to see who’s actually reading my blog. Don’t fail me.


Comments

  1. Jess HannonJanuary 15, 2025 at 1:02 PM

    I love to hug & am always available to give you one! Love you!

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    1. Anne RobertsJanuary 15, 2025 at 3:26 PM

      I am totally clueless with most technology! So here I am thinking it’s totally presentable! Sorry, but I support your frustration with IT things! I can support you in listening and love!

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  2. sarah burgessJanuary 15, 2025 at 5:20 PM

    HUGS? I got you. those are my specialty. Love you JJ. xoxooxox

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  3. CaityJanuary 15, 2025 at 5:57 PM

    Oh JJ I would never give you anything but Love, Hugs, and Laughs. Always and forever. I might be savvy enough to help you!! Although I feel like this blog looks great already.

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  4. Sandy SchulzJanuary 15, 2025 at 6:01 PM

    Hey JJ, Things have not improved since you were the person always helping me with my technology skills or lack there of. Heck, I had to enlist my daughter-in-law just to write this message. Sending hugs from Nantucket and looking forward to your next blog post no matter how it’s organized. 💖

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  5. Jennifer GreenfieldJanuary 15, 2025 at 10:35 PM

    Hey JJ, I love to give hugs, tell (bad) jokes and go for walks. I wish I could help with the IT, I think it's great!! Sending lots of love and hugs your way. Thank you for bringing us on your journey and love you along the way.

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  6. SophieJanuary 16, 2025 at 1:22 PM

    I think it looks great!!! Unfortunately, I'm a dinosaur when it comes to technology. I really like the way it looks and how it's displayed and how you write!! You amaze me!!! love ya!!

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  7. ShannonJanuary 16, 2025 at 7:25 PM

    Hugs and love always! Xoxo

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  8. Carol EarleJanuary 17, 2025 at 9:00 AM

    SAY IT LOUD AND PROUD
    Don’t EVER hold back 💗

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  9. WinnieJanuary 17, 2025 at 5:09 PM

    Love you JJ ❤️ Huge Hug and kiss...well actually we know what happens when i go in for a kiss 💋 so how about just a hug 🫂 🤗 😅

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